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6/27/2025

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9/3/2024

survivor encouragement cards

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survivor encouragement cards

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9/3/2024

Ministering to Victims of Sexual Abuse

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9/3/2024

Helpful vs. hurtful survivor support

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9/3/2024

Helping your Child after sexual abuse

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9/3/2024

Biblical Comfort for Survivors of Sexual Abuse

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9/12/2022

What are my rights as a victim in utah?

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​What are my rights as a victim in Utah?

The following is not legal advice. For legal advice and guidance, contact a legal professional, like a lawyer.


According to the Iron County Sheriff's Office Victim Services webpage:
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The Utah Legislature has passed a number of provisions in a continuing attempt to afford victims the rights they deserve. In 1994 numerous groups and citizens rallied together to support and pass a Victims’ Rights Amendment to the state constitution. These efforts have culminated in working toward the end result we all are striving to reach, "balancing the scales of justice." A summary of those rights are as follows:
  1. Victims have the right "to be treated with fairness, respect, and dignity, and to be free from harassment and abuse throughout the criminal justice process."
  2. Victims have rights in relation to "important criminal justice hearings" which include preliminary hearings, arraignments, disposition of charges, conditions of release/bail hearings, trials, sentencing hearings, and parole hearings.
    1. Victims have the right, upon request, to be informed of all important criminal justice hearings.
    2. Victims have the right to be present at and to be heard at arraignments, disposition of charges, conditions of release/bail hearings, and sentencing hearings.
    3. Victims have the right to be present at (but not to be heard at) preliminary hearings and trials.
    4. These rights apply to all felonies in adult courts and to juvenile cases involving offenses that would be felonies if committed by an adult.
  3. Victims and witnesses have the right to reasonable employer intercession services to minimize loss of pay and benefits.
  4. Victims and witnesses have the right to be informed as to the level of protection available to protect them from intimidation and harm.
  5. Victims and witnesses have the right to a secure waiting area that does not require them to be in close proximity to defendants and offenders.
  6. Victims have a right to privacy and should not be forced to disclose their address, telephone number, place of employment, or other locating information, without compelling reason.
  7. Victims have the right to have a sentencing judge, for the purpose of imposing an appropriate sentence, receive and consider reliable information concerning the background, character and conduct of those convicted.
  8. Victims have the right to restitution when appropriate and may also be eligible for reparations.
  9. Victims have a right to a speedy trial and disposition of charges.

resources:
https://ironsheriff.net/divisions/victim-services

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8/31/2022

Emergency Resources for Survivors

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emergency Resources for survivors of sexual abuse

Click a link or phone number to be connected or taken to the  corresponding site 


- The National Suicide Prevention Line
988

- National Sexual Assault Hotline
 1-800-656-4673

- National Sexual Assault Hotline Online Chat
https://hotline.rainn.org/online

- Abused Deaf Women’s Advocacy Services
 206-726-0093

- American Indian Resource Center, Inc.
http://www.aircinc.org

- National Center on Elder Abuse (NCEA) 
http://www.ncea.aoa.gov/

- Child Protective Services
1-800-422-4453

- National Sexual Violence Resource Center Directory of Organizations
https://www.nsvrc.org/organizations

- 1in6 (Men’s Sexual Abuse Resources)
http://www.1in6.org/

- RAINN’s Sexual Assault Service Provider Search
https://centers.rainn.org/?_ga=2.1965559.719219053.1587868575-554195670.1587868575

- Directory for the Offices of Civil Rights by State 
https://www2.ed.gov/about/offices/list/ocr/addresses.html

- Submit a Title IX complaint to the Office for Civil Rights 
https://www2.ed.gov/about/offices/list/ocr/complaintintro.html

- Submit a Clery Act Complaint 
1-800-433-3243
Email your complaint to: [email protected]

- Database of Publicly Accused Roman Catholic Priests
Nuns, Brothers, Deacons, and Seminarians

https://www.bishop-accountability.org/accused/

- Preacher Boys’ Abuser Independent Fundamental Baptist Database
https://www.preacherboysdoc.com/abuser-database

- National Sex Offender Public Website
https://www.nsopw.gov/?AspxAutoDetectCookieSupport=1

- Online Counseling from Licensed Therapists

           - Better Help (also offers christian counseling)
             https://www.betterhelp.com
           - Faithful Counseling (Faith Based Counseling)
             https://www.faithfulcounseling.com
- Utah Coalition Against Domestic Violence (List of Resources)
https://udvc.org/resources/ 

- National Domestic Violence Hotline (information on protective orders)
https://www.thehotline.org/resources/protective-restraining-orders/

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8/30/2022

A parent's quick guide to apps

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A Parent’s Quick Guide to Apps:

  • SnapChat: An app where users send one another photos, videos, or direct messages. Users can also create “stories” where their photos or videos will last for 24 hours. Users take a photo or video, choose how long it can be viewed, and send it to the recipient(s) of their choice. Once a photo is viewed, it is permanently gone and cannot be retrieved. Snapchat does not filter user’s private messages and deletes all unsaved messages, photos, and videos after they are opened. The only way to save a photo is screenshotting the image before it disappears or by clicking “re-play” within 30 seconds to view one more time before the photo disappears permanently. It is virtually impossible for law enforcement to retrieve any CSAM before it is automatically deleted from SnapChat’s storage. 
 
  • TikTok: An app that allows users to stream and create 15 second videos on any topic. The app allows users to use popular music, sound bytes, and recordings of other users in their videos. Often on TikTok, predators use grooming tactics like gaining a child’s trust and respect by praising that child for their talents or by pretending to be another child. A predator may coerce a child into posting explicit content, use the child’s trust as a way to start an inappropriate relationship, or convince the child they can “make them famous”. TikTok creates suggestions based on the content the user views, their age, third party data, and search history.



  • Instagram: Instagram is a video and photo sharing app owned by Meta [Facebook]. It allows users to post photos and videos, make short videos with music and sound bytes called “reels”, message anyone [followers or non-followers], create 24-hour long picture or video “stories”, and send secret messages that automatically delete in “vanish mode”. Instagram bans full nudity and videos or photos of sexual acts, however they do allow what many would consider pornographic images. As long as body parts aren’t completely exposed, parts of the explicit photo are slightly covered, Instagram usually allows these photos. For example, a nude person can be shown wearing sheer, see-through clothing or be covered with small articles of lingerie and this is permitted. Also Like many apps, Instagram suggests advertisements, posts, users to follow, and features a “Made for you” suggestions page. 
 
  • Yik Yak: In an article titled, “The 12 Most Dangerous Apps for Kids: A Parent’s Guide” for Bark by Haley Zapal, Yik Yak is described as, “One of the most dangerous messaging apps for kids of the past decade [that] has recently made a resurgence. Yik Yak is an anonymous chatting app that lets users within a five-mile radius read publicly posted messages.  When we say anonymous, we really mean it: Yik Yak has no user names, no handles, no real names, and no photos.” Bark also explains how Yik Yak can be used for sharing sexually explicit language, spreading rumors, and for bullying.
 
  • Roblox: Roblox is a videogame that can be accessed by users around the world. Bark reports it’s popular among young children ages 5-12 and very similar to Minecraft in many ways. Roblox is a game, but users can create and share games, photos, links, and other content within the game. Violence is simulated within this game. Adults can easily access children through messaging within Roblox and through the content they create and publish on the platform.
 
  • Yarn: Bark’s “The 12 Most Dangerous Apps for Kids: A Parent’s Guide” by Haley Zapal describes Yarn as “a reading app, but definitely not one you want your kids downloading. Yarn tells stories via fake text messages (it looks like you’re in iMessage reading a friend’s thread) that are either scary or sexual. Some of the titles you can access include “Send Nudes?,” “He’s Watching Me,” “Serial Slasher,” and “Sexting 101.” In addition to text messages, you can also watch short videos on a variety of topics. Sometimes, they’re even in the form of TikToks. You can also listen to audio clips kind of like an audiobook or podcast.”
 
  • Kik: Kik is a messaging app, also rated by Bark as one of the top 12 most dangerous apps for kids. Bark also states it “has almost no redeeming qualities”. Bark is a messaging app that allows people to use chat rooms. Predators can easily find kids, join chat rooms with children, catfish them, and use this app for predation. If your child needs to message someone, there are many safer avenues that are much easier to filter safely where they are not openly exposed to anyone. 
 
  • OnlyFans: OnlyFans is an app that allows users to create content and allow their “fans” to subscribe. Creators earn money when their fans pay for subscriptions and purchase content. OnlyFans openly allows nudity, pornography, and is popular for adult film actors, celebrities, and sex workers to sell content on. Fans can subscribe monthly or use a pay-per-view subscription. Although the app is for adults 18+ in the U.S., OnlyFans has had trouble with age verification, CSAM distribution, and child exploitation. Children were accessing the app by moving past the age verification as it only requires a photo and a photo of a valid ID to be approved. In addition, creators who are 18+ need only to have their ID approved and then they are free to post child sexual abuse materials. The app claims to filter content to ensure no CSAM is distributed, as it violates their guidelines. However, CSAM can easily fly under the radar especially when the subject of the content is a teenager made to look adult. It’s also common for OnlyFans creators to purposefully make themselves look younger or even child-like, further promoting the sexualization of children and making filtering content even more difficult. 
 
  • HOOP: HOOP is most easily described as a dating app for children and teens. Protect Young Eyes’ App Report on Hoop explains it like this: “HOOP connects with Snapchat, shows you Snap profiles of other users, and allows you [to] connect with them or swipe away to the next Snap profile. Once they’ve exchanged Snap info inside of Hoop, the rest of the conversation happens in Snapchat. There’s no chat in Hoop, and location information isn’t included — though some users put it on their profile image or bio. Teens earn points for logging in daily, sharing their Snap, getting Snap friends to join Hoop, and taking surveys.” They also include in their report that the profiles are public, there’s no private account options. Users get rewarded with points for sharing Snapchat usernames with strangers. The app reviewer for Protect Young Eyes came across multiple racy photos, of what appeared to be teenage girls, in their review and shared, “While the majority of the profiles are appropriate, there are profiles that are not. I came across these inappropriate profiles after about 10 minutes of use (for reference: search preferences were set for any gender, any country, and no filters on age or location; the first picture, my age was set at 13 and for the second and third, my age was set at 30). Adults can use the app with age verification and will be shown adult profiles. However, Hoop has made it extremely easy for predators to create a fake child's profile to access children; all they need is a fake photo and a made-up child’s bio and they can have access to whatever age group they might pretend to be. 
 
  • Wink: Wink operates extremely similarly to HOOP. Wink is designed for kids and teens to meet other kids and teens to then connect on Snapchat and can be used by adults as well. The same dangers and risks as Hoop are very much at play with Wink. It’s easy for predators to use and catfish children with.
 
  • Among Us: Among Us is a mystery game where 4-10 players play a “Mafia” style game as animated people in space-suits. The game is made up of multiple rounds where players try to escape the secret killers and the secret killers try to kill enough before the game ends. The game play is not the issue, instead it’s the chat feature. Certain language is censored, but the chat filter is easy to work around. The game lets anyone with the app play with anyone of any age, so adults can very easily chat with children. There is a setting where only people with a password can join a game so kids can potentially play with players they know only, but certain steps must be taken for this.  
 
  • Discord: Bark’s review of the app explains it best. Also in the “The 12 Most Dangerous Apps for Kids: A Guide for Parents”, Haley Zapal writes, “Discord is a huge place for teens to hang out and talk about gaming… It’s a messaging platform that’s very similar to Slack, and features chatrooms, direct messaging, voice chat, and video calls. Users can join different “servers” and within each server are different “channels.” Think of these like chat rooms. They can be for anything, from huge public video game servers to small, private groups of friends. So, why is Discord so dangerous? Because it can expose kids to all sorts of inappropriate content, from hate speech and porn to bullying and online predators. Bark’s 2021 annual report found Discord consistently in the top five platforms for bullying, suicidal ideation, body image, and more. And even though it’s popular among teens, Discord is used by more than just kids, which means that adult content on the app is rampant. It can be easy for kids to get involved in a Discord server and make “friends” and then be influenced by sketchy adults.”
 
  • Omegle: Omegle is an app designed to let users video chat with strangers worldwide. It pairs two people up anonymously via video chat — and that’s about all it is. There’s not much the app does, or can do, about filtering users or content. People can share live video of pornographic acts, nudity, and explicit behaviors in real time. Users can also save videos and screenshots of their encounter. This app is very easy for predators to use and extremely dangerous for children. 


  • Twitter: Twitter is an app that allows users to share 280 characters at a time with their private audience or publicly.  Users can also share photos, “re-tweet” (or share other people’s posts), and message one another. Unfortunately, like Instagram, Twitter is a go-to source for pornography. 


  • Be Aware of “Vault Apps": Vault Apps are apps disguised as others.  For instance, a person can download a vault app that appears to be a calculator or a news app, however when you open the vault app, it will actually take you to secret photos, other apps, or other content. Typically, vault apps require a password to open and some will take photos automatically if a password is denied. This is an easy way for kids to hide conversations, inappropriate photos, or apps they aren’t allowed to have.

  • Vetting Apps: When you’re vetting apps for your children, think of the following questions:
    • Does my child have to lie about their age to access this app?
    • Is this app rated for kids?
    • Can porn be easily shared on this app?
    • Is there a chat option?
    • Has this app, or apps like it, been proven to increase depression, social media addictions, harmful behaviors, suicidality, eating disorders, poor body image etc?
    • Does the app automatically make profiles public?
    • Is there a way to make private profiles?
    • If my child’s profile is private, can other users still see their name, photo, age, or location? 
    • Can my child receive messages or message requests?
    • Does this app have chat rooms?
    • Is this an app an adult can easily pretend to be a child on?
    • Would this app be ideal for a predator to use?
    • Can people find out my child’s information if they’re on this app?
    • Does my child need this app? Is there a safer way they can connect with friends that I can easily monitor and filter?
    • Can photos and videos be shared?
    • Can my child access links sent to them and be taken to an outside website?

To view Bark’s “The 12 Most Dangerous Apps for Kids: A Guide for Parents”, visit:
https://www.bark.us/blog/hidden-social-media-apps/

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9/11/2021

the consent chart

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The Consent Chart is based off of Liz Kleinrock’s document, “All about Consent”. We've created it into a kid friendly poster that can be used and hung in homes, classrooms, churches, schools, etc. 
The Consent Chart's purpose is to help children understand that it isn't okay for others to touch them without their permission, and it is not okay for kids to touch others without their permission as well. The aim of this chart is to help children understand consent from a young age to combat child sexual abuse and exploitation. If you're interested in more information on child safety or are looking for a parent's guide, please visit our "Trainings" page and contact us for information on our free, Child Consent Training and Parent Guide Training.

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9/9/2021

what is Child Sexual Abuse

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What is Child Sexual Abuse:
Engaging in one or multiple of the following behaviors with a minor:
  • Exhibitionism, or exposing oneself to a minor
  • Fondling
  • Intercourse
  • Masturbation in the presence of a minor or forcing the minor to masturbate
  • Obscene phone calls, text messages, or digital interaction
  • Producing, owning, or sharing pornographic images or movies of children
  • Sex of any kind with a minor, including vaginal, oral, or anal
  • Sex trafficking [exploiting children for sex, selling a child for sexual purposes]
  • Any other sexual conduct that is harmful to a child's mental, emotional, or physical welfare
Child Abuse Stats:
  • 34 percent of perpetrators in cases of child sexual abuse are family members.
Department of Justice, Office of Justice Programs, Bureau of Justice Statistics, Sexual Assault of Young Children as Reported to Law Enforcement (2000).
  • People who have been sexually assaulted are more likely to use drugs than the general public.
    • 3.4 times more likely to use marijuana
    • 6 times more likely to use cocaine
    • 10 times more likely to use other major drugs
DG Kilpatrick, CN Edumuds, AK Seymour. Rape in America: A Report to the Nation. Arlington, VA: National Victim Center and Medical University of South Carolina (1992).
  • Sexual violence affects victims’ relationships 
    • 38% of victims of sexual violence experience work or school problems, which can include significant problems with a boss, coworker, or peer.
    • 37% experience family/friend problems, including getting into arguments more frequently than before, not feeling able to trust their family/friends, or not feeling as close to them as before the crime.
    • 79% of survivors who were victimized by a family member, close friend or acquaintance experience professional or emotional issues, including moderate to severe distress, or increased problems at work or school.
        Department of Justice, Office of Justice Programs, Bureau of Justice Statistics, Socio-emotional Impact of 
        Violent Crime (2014).


Common Signs of Child Sexual Abuse
  • Signs that a teen may have been sexually abused:
    • Unusual weight gain or weight loss
    • Unhealthy eating patterns, like a loss of appetite or excessive eating
    • Signs of physical abuse, such as bruises
    • Sexually transmitted infections (STIs) or other genital infections
    • Signs of depression, such as persistent sadness, lack of energy, changes in sleep or appetite, withdrawing from normal activities, or feeling “down”
    • Anxiety or worry
    • Falling grades
    • Changes in self-care, such as paying less attention to hygiene, appearance, or fashion than they usually do
    • Self-harming behavior
    • Expressing thoughts about suicide or suicide behavior
    • Drinking or drug use
https://rainn.org/articles/warning-signs-teens
  • What can keep a victim of sexual abuse by a family member from telling someone?
    • They care about the abuser and what will happen to the abuser if they tell
    • Concern about other family members' reactions
      •  fear they won’t be believed 
      • will be accused of doing something wrong.
    • They may have already tried to tell someone what happened, but the abuse was ignored or minimized
    • They don’t realize they’ve been abused
    • They don’t know who to trust.
    • They may be afraid that the abuser will follow through with threats
https://rainn.org/articles/incest
  • Common effects after sexual abuse occurs:
    • Self-Harm 
    • Sexually Transmitted Infections
    • Substance Abuse 
    • Dissociation 
    • Panic Attacks 
    • Eating Disorders 
    • Sleep Disorders 
    • Suicide 
    • Guilt, shame, and blame.
    • Intimacy and relationships issues
    • Difficulty setting boundaries
    • Self-esteem issues
    • Flashbacks
RAINN

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